It’s pretty natural to feel awkward and uneasy on the first date with somebody, especially if you have not had any interaction with the person before. But you’ve got to break that awkward silence. Now that does not mean you begin interviewing him or her by asking interrogative questions or so. Instead, take it easy, and spontaneously ask the following questions.
How was your day?
Wouldn’t you love being asked that question? Being asked this question makes one feel that you are mindfully interested in them. As in, you want to know about their routine, etc. It makes them think they are not acutely being interviewed. And remember, once they start talking about their day, listen as if you are spellbound by what they are talking. Don’t make them feel unattended or ignored.
What’s your favorite thing to do in your free time?
Now this question will get you to know them better. And this question is fundamental, because, at this point, you guys might find out your mutual interests like sports. Suppose they say they love to play basketball, or badminton in their free time, and you have similar interests. This might lead to a whole new conversation! Like the last time you got severely injured while playing, or how do you get along with your team, etc. So this question will help to get you both more comfortable with each other.
Do you have any siblings?
This question will make them feel you are interested in their family. And like the previous one, this question might also lead to another conversation, like how many times they had shifted houses or cities, or what kind of a family they have. Remember, the whole point is to converse more and more. Don’t look for a perfect answer, await the discussion to get more interesting for you both. That’s the point of asking the questions!
Something that you are very passionate about?
After all the questions above that you’ve asked, that strange quietness is most probably broken. Consequently, now they are comfortable conversing with you, and a little open too. But that doesn’t mean you can get explicit. Instead, ask about their passion. Here they might tell you some ambition of theirs, like, writing a book, or releasing an album. It’s a bonus if you have the same passion. Again, a new topic opens up. You might end up talking about your favorite writers, or singers, and books, or albums, and so on.
Are you comfortable sharing your spiritual beliefs?
The entire point is to ensure the person is on the same page as you. If either of you is orthodox, then this question can be a dealmaker or a deal-breaker. But, let’s hope for the best. Perhaps both of you might have similar spiritual beliefs.
What was the funniest incident in your life?
Finding a person who has a great sense of humor and ability to make you laugh is very important.
What is your testimony?
Everybody has a testimony. And when your dating partner is telling you theirs, give them all of your attention- as it’s the most important story of they are life, and if you end up seeming uninterested in it, they might feel you consider it inconsequential. Make sure to maintain constant eye contact with them, and that your expressions don’t make them feel like they made a mistake by sharing something so intimate with you.
Do you smoke, drink, or do drugs?
No doubt this question is a little too blunt, and some people even say this is not to be asked on the first date. However, you are there to know about them! And you are not bombarding them with the question in an interrogative way all at once. You have got them engaged with you through interesting conversations before asking this question.
Do you believe in marriage?
If you believe in marriage, but they don’t, you are probably wasting your time as you most likely won’t be able to convince them 100% on marrying you. Believe their word, if they say they are not interested in marriage, that is it.
Do you want children?
This question shows you are seriously looking for someone to be committed with. If you love children, but they don’t see themselves baring children, it’s probably not going to work out.
Good luck with your date!